The Experience of Divorce

As a child of divorced parents, I already experienced what it's like and how it influences life and family dynamics. Divorce is something that takes time to adjust to, so it is normal to be confused and stressed. Keep in mind that when moving from house to house, each household operates differently, and each parent may have different expectations. One parent might be more strict than the other, while one parent might be more relaxed. One parent may tell you to clean up after yourself after dinner, and one may just clean up for you. As I said, it will definitely take some time adjusting and remembering the rules and responsibilities for each parent. It will feel hard at first, but it will get easier over time.

Communication is Key

Custody arrangements from a child's point of view can be intense and stressful, so it is important that the child is able to express their opinions, making sure that they feel heard.  A misconception is that children do not need to be involved since the adults are the ones who make the the verdict. However, when the child is not included in that process, it may result into them having strong and negative emotions. Children are the ones who face the result of the parent's choices, which can include switching from home to home, staying in one house, and even adjusting to different responsibilities overall. Children may be confused and will take time to adjust to the different expectations of each house hold if the custody is split. For some children this is a big transition not only because of different routines, but also because they get to spend time with their parents less.

Responsibility and Fairness

Understanding Fairness

Fairness means that everyone is treated equally and without bias. Philosophy shows that fairness is not only about making everyone have the same things, but it is also about how everyone is provided with the necessary resources in order to succeed. In family situations, when considering custody, fairness depends on key factors: the teen's health, the parent's ability to keep a safe environment, the teen's age, and relationships. Teens can also have a say in court, depending on their age. Considering these key factors help make safe and steady settlements for everyone.